my two confort zones
We are in january 2025.
When change finds you.
We are laying in our sofa.
We are at home, we eat a lot, sleep more long, have a evening full of hobbies…
maybe because I am in peace I realize I need to do more for myself. It is a good thing. Finally, I felt free and safe enough to go out of my safe space.
I guess the more I grow up, more I think being safe is a right, resting is a right. Like it is not something we deserve, or have to prove ourselves in order to earned it. It is simply something that everyone needs and specially growing up you won’t have anyone telling you that now is time to sleep or that now is enough,
actually the world is always wanting something from us
so we have to tell ourselves
it is enough, we have done enough
Reaching this point took me years and a lot of journaling and therapy. I have been talking about this “slowing down” in my last videos and podcasts, trying to process it the best way I can - with art.
You can also check my old texts if you want to know more about it: peace, circular plans and finding a safe space for yourself.
If you are not there yet, imagine.
Imagine that we are allowed to rest, to relax, to feel cozy and confortable,
Imagine we are all safe:
our safe space can be a home, can be a person, our own body, can be a moment, rituals, can be a journal, a project, or even an online community - whatever brings you the feeling of being here right now and being enough
we are here: safe.
Let me ask you then,
what happens next?
If rest is a right, change is a must.
Even in a safe space - and specially in a safe space - we will ask ourselves what can I do next? So this month I asked myself this, I went on a solo date, I stopped judging myself for creating my walls and started going out there even with my armor and protections.
Specially in winter, simple things like this feels even harder. But I wanted to do more for myself, to feel that I am enough and yet I still want to expand.
sometimes being in my confort zone is what inspires me the most to go out of it - or forces me, because things there can get a little bit boring.
So in order to do more for myself and bring new things in my new year
I needed to challenge myself, to go out of my confort zone, to do things I was actually very scared of, things I have been rejecting for not months - but years.
sometimes the things we reject the most, are the most needed things
as I told in my planning 2025 video, this is the year of the snake, it is about fear and cure, about going through pain, but actually heal some parts of ourselves because of it.
2024 was the year of the dragon and in january I am actually reading Fourth Wing and Iron Flamme for the first time, which is about dragons and I got me thinking about courage.
let's talk about dragons!
often when there is a dragon, the dragon is protecting something very precious, so behind every scary situation (dragon) and every fear - I face, as well, my most precious thing.
There is only the confort zone and the desire zone.
Bad things can happen in both of them
Life happens in both of them
I feel like I have two confort zones,
or that I am in the middle of confortable and unconfortable.
the first confort zone is finding confort around me, in what I do, in my routine, having a sense of familiarity, trusting the people I am with , my home, my rituals - basically the common sense of what a confort zone should be.
the other confort zone is having peace within as I go through changes, challenges and discover new things, new people, new experiences - but I keep peace inside me.
I hope this all made some sense for you as well, so we can navigate life with rest but also honoring adventure and the best that can come from it.
Also, editing the video of this script/idea was a surprise because I came across songs that expressed my feelings more than I could ever do in my voice over this time. So I really encourage you to watch it and give an special attention for the songs, from artists like: Kylie Dailey and Lars Eriksson.
